Saturday, August 9, 2008

Favorites From Belize

8-9-08

Favorite Music: Supa G-Four Men aka Ole; Collie Buddz- Blind to You Haters (yea Caye Caulker snorkeling)

Favorite Outing: Rio On Pools in Pine Ridge, Cayo; Snorkeling at Caye Caulker (more for the experience of sailing, rum punch, FRESH conch ceviche, and reggae rather than the actual snorkeling)

Meal: Rice and Beans w/ Marie Sharp's Hot, tortilla, coleslaw; French toast @ Erva's; Egg Curry and Palappam at South Indian

City: Dangriga

Kids: Cesar (Barnabas), Keenan (Barnabas), David Lopez (Barnabas), Shivaun and Vidal (Barnabas), Jorge (Andrews), Cason (Queen's), Kevin (Queen's), Papito (neighbor in 'Griga)

Reflections on our Duke Engage group: Every member of our Engage group contributed to the dynamic of our three hour dinner escapades. I appreciate that because our differences, we could always have compelling conversations (turf, fish teeth, smells of different races, etc.). I had a thoughtful conversation with every member of the group. At times, I grew frustrated with members of the group (some of the girls) because I felt trapped by their idealism, lack of pragmatism, and laziness. However, I will maintain good relations with everyone. Next year, I might become friends with Matt and most definitely Kevin.

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Reflections on my first post

8-7-08

Upon coming to Belize, I had a few goals in mind. My goals were, in order:

1.) Gain perspective in a 3rd world nation
2.) Cultural Immersion
3.) Powerful dollar
4.) Service, working with kids

This project destroyed my preconceptions about what the Duke Engage project was all about. I expected Duke to throw me into a third world culture. I considered community service to be a large component of my experience, but for someone who has lived such a lavished life, I expected the daily struggles to play a more prominent role in my experience. In short, I expected to be a Peace Corps worker.

What was I thinking?

Obviously Duke wouldn't send me on a Peace Corps-esque mission. Given their history of serving their students off a silver platter, they once again followed through. For 6/8 weeks, I had AC. I used only 800/1200 of stipend. Internet access and cable were readily available. Most importantly, I was never forced to make difficult decisions in my daily life, whether it be creating a budget, cooking food, or improvising with limited resources. Drew did that for us.

At first, this vexed me because my first and second goal relied on a completely immersive experience. It seems counterintuitive to spend all this money to send kids all over the world just to perform a service that could be done in America.

Ultimately, the conditions ceased to annoy me. Because it was a short term project, it's an unrealistic expectation to 'be a local,' and see the country. Both I and Duke would choose the latter. Also, I figure that being comfortable would allow me to perform my service better.

In fact, I don't even know why I'm complaining. I ultimately got a healthy dose of Belizean culture. I considered myself a Belizean for these two months and I acted accordingly. I began to understand and speak the language; I listened to the music; I ate the food. I definitely feel too cultured and experienced to call myself a tourist.

Goals rewritten: 4, 2, 3, 1

I still don't feel like I changed anyone's life. However, if this camp continues this year and beyond, the cumulative effect of these changes will undoubtedly change many kids.

Friday, July 18, 2008

A Weakness of Mine

7-18-08

1.) Getting the attention of kids

2.) Once I have their attention, how to a transition into an informative tone that doesn't bore them

3.) Explaining a game. I know I have to break it down into its elements and reinforce the elements. I'm just bad at doing it without practice. I'm a terrible extemporaneous explainer.

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Veronica: "Kids teach you a lot about grownups"

7-9-08

This engage experience might not be equipping the Belizean kids with anything (I'm pretty sure it's not). However, I sure feel like it's honing a dull skill set of mine--kids. Working with kids for so many hours a day has given me some perspective on how to handle them.


I've definitely have had to keep them occupied, discipline them (kind of? more like fuss?), and play with them. It's like training as a parent, only I have a huge number of different types of kids to practice on.


Number one lesson I've learned: don't act as an authority figure around kids. While some kids respond to your authority favorably, a lot of kids despise this. A lot of kids try to rebel against this attitude and feed off of it. I almost feel like discipline and fussing is the weak man's way out. It works wonders in the short term for getting their attention and getting them to listen. I don't think it instills any values except fear though.


A much better strategy is to always 'be on the kid's team.' Rather than saying, "Don't ..." or even the milder, "Try not to ...," tell him, 'I don't want you to get in trouble with Ms. Shaw. You better ..." This approach gets much better results. Don't antagonize the kids. Of course there has to be some authority figure around the kids. That's what I'm still trying to figure out.

Working with kids has given me a newfound respect for mom and dad. They raised me perfectly without using discipline. Only infinite patience and love. Now I'm trying to find out how they did it. Maybe that's what draws me to kids....

I'm excited about becoming a parent, and feel like this experience will make me a better one.

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Roughing It

6-22-08

Thoughts of helping AIDS patients in India, building schools in Africa, and traveling the world as a volunteer were some of the thoughts that filled my mind when I decided to go to a highly ranked school. These are the kinds of people that change the world, right? Stories are always circulating about those individuals who merged their intellectual and altruistic sides into life changing projects. And not to sound like a prestige whore, but think about writing grad school essays on these things! Think about the experiences!

I also thought of Parthiv--how he backpacked around Europe, Africa and Asia; how he got a job as a menial worker in each country; how he absorbed the culture as an inhabitant and on the cheap; how that must have changed his whole outlook on life.

So when I heard about this magical Duke Engage program, you can imagine what I thought. How I'm going to change people's lives and live ascetically. How my own view on the world is going to change as a result of this asceticism. Even in post number one, I say that's one of the main reasons I wanted to go Duke Engage.

But I haven't felt that ascetic spirit yet. AC rooms, cable, and kids. Life is slow and easy. Dinner is two hours long. I get 7.5 hours of sleep per day. My fellow Engagers are engaging, interesting and fun. Am I getting the real Belizean experience? At least I'm living here for 2 months to find out.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

The First Three Days

6-18-08

Over the last three days, I have mainly become acquainted with the land, culture and people of Belize. Spent the first day/night in Belize City and the next month in San Ignacio.

Impressions? Love the food, people, my Duke Engage group, the minibus/Drew and San Ignacio. Don't like Belize City, the bugs, lack of wireless. Indifferent to the weather.

Seems that almost all of my compadres agreed with my first post in their own reflections. My only concern right now is that I might become too comfortable. I'm not getting the chance to 'rough it' like I thought.

Saturday, June 14, 2008

A Little Apprehensive

6-14-08

Why? All the work I've put into working out, mosquitoes